Twins Found in a Box
Adapting to Adoption
This is about my twin sister and me. We were adopted from Seoul, South Korea and 1972. (You know, during the era of the Bee Gees, Michael Jackson to Madonna and beyond.) We truly believed we were US citizens throughout our childhood; but, in reality we were going in life around stateless. I’d say we had a normal all American childhood—and considered ourselves to be “Real Americans.” It wasn’t until after Dad’s Traumatic brain injury, our parents divorce, and after we got kicked out of the church that we learned we were not US citizens and this was at the age of 25! We didn’t even know where Korea was on the map! You’ll probably be able to relate to at least one part of the story—especially if you were adopted. It’s rare, but it’s also universal, because it has to do with dealing with authorities while trying to find your true self.
The Search for Mother Missing
APeek Inside International Adoption
Come vacation vicariously with the Vance Twins! Ever thought about looking for your birth family? You might be surprised at what you find. (At least the twins were.) Here Janine shares details about her first trip to Seoul South Korea during the 50 year anniversary gathering celebrating and contemplating overseas adoption. In this contemporary tale detailing a two week trip that explores intercountry adoption from South Korea, the twin sisters naively travel to their birth city of Seoul in search of their Korean family. Little incidents along the way serve as a catalyst which lead them into a worldwide modern-day adoptee-rights movement seeking truth and transparency.
we are not who they think we are
SPECIAL ADVANCE COPY VERSION: Did you know that a good amount of adopted people were told they were orphaned as children and therefore processed for intercountry adoption as “orphans,” but truthfully came from destitute families? Devastatingly, some of these families returned to the child-care centers to retrieve back their children, but have been turned away. Others have been waiting for their children’s return for decades now. This is the reason for the title, “Adoptees”: We Are Not Who They Think We Are. Some of us “adoptees” were routinely labeled “orphans,” and as a consequence go on to live permanently deprived of original birth certificates, complete adoption documents, or even citizenship.
ADOPTION History 101
An Orphan’s Research
Has the global push for adoption exploited mothers worldwide?Adoption History summarizes the inception and expansion of the adoption industry, focusing on its roots and consequences kept from public awareness. For years, facilitators have denied adoptees access to documents that could lead them back to their families.In defense of the rights of adopted people, a true Ethiopian orphan briefly speaks her mind about adoption.
PRAISE FROM READERS
It is so unique, compelling, refreshing, and eye opening. The honesty in which you wrote this book is greatly appreciated.
…It’s imperative that you continue to write as God inspires you. There are people waiting for a word, a phrase, a sentense, or something to grasp their attention. And as soon as that lightbulb moment hits them, their lives will never be the same (after reading and hearing your message of hope). They will be delivered and set free. People are walking around with a lot of hurt, pain, emotional wounds, and scars. I am a mother of 3 adopted boys and I know some of things they struggle with. Janine, you were born for this, so please keep writing to inspire and encourage us. Whatever is birthed in your heart cannot be denied. There’s much more in you waiting to be unleashed. I am so thankful for you and Jenette. You are two of the most beautiful, sweet, caring, and loving people. Love and blessings! —Yvonne Palmer, adoptive mother of 3 boys
Janine has done a wonderful job in presenting so many facets
“The Search for Mother Missing is a great example of the complexity international adoptees learn to live through,with all its many obstacles and challenges, sorting through meager truths, half-truths and lies. Janine has done a wonderful job in presenting so many facets of the adoptee culture and allowing the reader a certain closeness so we may vicariously experience her journey through her eyes.” –-Thomas Park Clement 2007
This is a beautiful, honest collection of true stories
This is a beautiful, honest collection of true stories by those who have experienced relinquishment and adoption from the beginning of their lives. I appreciate the openness and integrity presented in these words. Broke my heart, opened my eyes, and made me think deeply. — Amazon Reader
An emotional page turner
This book is emotionally hard to read, and consequently, I couldn’t put it down. Yes, some pieces were more compelling than others, but overall, it’s a beautiful, sad crash course.
Let the Truth be told and let hearts be opened
Here you can read some stories and you will need a napkin, and I pray the world will open Its eyes for the Truth out there.
“I WAS ENTHRALLED FROM THE OPENING PAGES.
Janine’s story is a deeply revealing look at the innermost thoughts of a younger Janine as her life was beset by tragedy and she was forced to question her most firmly held beliefs. It was both entertaining and enlightening in a way I would have never imagined. I could not help but feel her pain, her love and the profound ironies she encountered.” –Kelly Creso, 2015 Commencement Speaker at the University of Washington, Tacoma
The most Important book in this Century
Let us do as the Nature Intended in the first place. Let us call for Family Preservation, let us put demands onto the child protective services all around the world. It must be upgraded and let us bring back Guardianship where It is needed for the Future. —Khara Niné
Insightful and intelligent from all points of views!
If you only want to read one book about inter country adoption read this one!
The world at large should listen and draw conclusions. We cannot undo mistakes happened in the past, but we can make sure that such mistakes will not happen again.
a must read
Fantastic compilation of voices that need to be heard. Adoption is not what we think it is in America, or throughout the world. A must read!
voices coming together
The voices of the now adult adoptees, and first family members are coming together and telling their truths and the cold hard facts of what it means to be adopted or to lose a child to adoption.
Reform is desperately needed in the big business of adoption, the ‘best interest’ of the children really need to be addressed, and the voices of the adults affected need to be heard and acted upon.
inFORMATIVE AND AFFIRMING
To read the stories of so many people, each from a different point of view, was very powerful. Common themes run through too. This book is especially relevant for anyone who has been adopted, knows someone who has been adopted, has thought about adopting, or just is interested in understanding people who have been through a non-traditional experience. Yes, some of this is painful, but it is important and thought-provoking.
i’m a transracial and transnational adoptee. I’ve never read anything so affirming and informative. My deepest thanks to the people who made this text possible. This is changing my life for the better. It’s helping me understand my own experiences and identity as an adoptee. This book is helping through some of the most important personal work of my life.
“I GOT REALLY ADDICTED TO READING JANINE’S BOOK.
It was fascinating and worth my time. It opened up a totally different world for me that I would have never known and made me think about a lot of things.” — Kanae Wada-Norton
The information was really enlightening.
As a Korean Adoptee, and an aspiring author, it is important to me to learn about other adoptees stories, international adoption and our “motherland”. I learned more about Korea and International adoption from this book than I’ve ever learned in 36 years of life. The information was really enlightening. So much of what I was told or assumed as a child about Korea was not true. So much of what I suspected as I’ve gotten older was true.
–-An Amazon Reader
Excellent & Informative
Well edited in an engaging style that keeps you turning the pages to get to the next story.
…So many of the authors capture ever so poignantly the feelings I felt while I was growing up and the feelings that I still have today….
I highly recommend this book!
Here you will find some of the real life experiences of the most important voices in adoption…that of the adopted person
I found comfort with this book and it opened my eyes to another way to take care of myself.
If you are feeling down this book helps find unconventional alternative approaches to help you find peace, that is not found often in the mainstream. This book also helps with learning about basic Eastern philosophy and opens you up to see past the ‘physical’, but instead into more meaning with the intent to find Joy in your life, such as the author, so she can write from her authentic self. By opening yourself up to see past the physical one can start letting the words flow onto paper, which is the intent of the author. I am looking forward to her next book, The Power of Isolation!
Because You Matter
"Janine is a great teacher, inspiration, and is so easy to work with. She helped me conquer my fears in order to tell my story. I was hesitant at first, but now I feel like a burden has been lifted.”
Janine offers expert guidance on the entire writing process.
- Wrote nine books and nine feature-length screenplays.
- Helped more than 50 writers become published authors.
- Personally mentored by the best friend of poet Maya Angelou
(and mentor to Oprah Winfrey).
- Trained on script development by former Disney executive
- Amazon best sellers in multiple categories.
- Writes guided meditation to help you focus.
- Studied story introduction from a best-selling author.
- Tips to how to legally protect yourself if needed.
- Connects you with a New York-based editor.
If I can do it, you can too!
BEST FOR BEGINNERS: For a hour consultation, book an appointment here. As a bonus, you will receive a copy of Janine’s first memoir. Contact her with just a click of the button. Appointments can be made phone or skype. *She is only offering her services for short time.
Always thought about writing your story but didn’t know where to start? Trying to complete a project, but just a little more information before you put yourself out there? Janine wants to support you with this endeavor. Since 1997, she has researched and written nine books and nine feature-length screenplays. She used to her intuition to help her along the way and she will help you to develop your own instincts to guide you with the process.
When you are ready, Janine will check-in with you. The mini-sabbatical includes guidance on finishing the first draft of your memoir, polishing the manuscript, formatting, proofing, and finding an editor to best fit your needs. And if you need to keep your identity private, she will give you ideas. No more floundering!